Friday, May 9, 2014

Take the "job" out of blow job & blow your man's mind! #romance #asmsg #sex #erotic

Take the word "job" out of blow job and blow your man's mind! 
I'm Amber Lea Easton, aka Dakota Skye and The Temptress, and I'm here to have some fun. I hope you are, too. I'm a romantic suspense, contemporary romance and paranormal erotic romance (Dakota Skye) author who enjoys pushing boundaries. Nothing turns me on more than making my readers squirm with tension from a suspenseful storyline and sensuous seduction scene. I may not write erotica per se, but I get the job done, baby! When I think of temptation, I automatically smile. The word alone makes me think of decadence, impulse, exploration, laughter, and boldness. On Tempt Me Tuesdays, I intend to delve into all of those elements of temptation with lighthearted glee. I might also be serious at times talking about relationships and love, but that's just how I am.  I enjoy comments on my blog posts, so please interact as often as possible. Let's have some fun together! 

Oral sex: we all like receiving it, but some of us are hesitant to give it. There are a lot of false ideas about blow jobs, for instance. Do you swallow or not? How deep do you go? What are the expectations? Well, I'm going to break it down for you. I've read a lot on this subject from all over the internet, magazines, and books. And, of course, there's the ol' trial and error method along with watching some porn along the way (some useful techniques combined with completely unrealistic expectations). This is my summary of all that knowledge, hopefully brief enough to be useful. 

1.) Communicate. Yes, that sounds simple--or awkward--but it's really necessary. Ask him questions about what he likes. "Do you like me to lick the tip?" "Am I sucking hard enough?" "Do you want me to use my hands?" Asking questions relaxes your lover and reassures him that you really want to be doing this. Maybe he's had women in the past feel like it was a necessary evil and blatantly told him so. Men need to relax to be aroused. When you ask him questions about how best to give him pleasure, you reassure him that this is exactly where you want to be.
2.) Use your hands. Men have been masturbating fast and furiously since puberty hit. They're used to climaxing this way. Use a combination of both hands, tongue and mouth. Put the tip of his penis in your mouth while your hand closes around his shaft. Move your mouth and hand together so that when your fist moves up it touches your lips. Lick and suck the frenulum (bundle of nerves directly beneath the head of the penis.) While moving your hand up and down his shaft, circle your mouth over his head, pausing to lick or suck his pleasure spot. Alternate what you're doing with your mouth while keeping the rhythmn of your hand steady. The deeper the better may be the case for porn, but if you're going to gag that's not fun for either of you. You can simulate deep throat action by using the mouth, tongue, and hand action.

3.) Suck his balls. Kiss them, squeeze them, love them, but be verrrrrrry gentle. And right before he's going to cum, give them a gentle tug. The skin here is ultra-thin and very sensitive. Let him know you have him--literally--in the palm of your hands. 

4.) Spice it up by cooling it down. Give your jaw a break by doing some "lipstick action" by rubbing the tip of his penis over your lips before taking a sip of ice cold water. The cold sensation in your mouth when it meets his hot cock will drive him insane.

5.) Massage his taint. This is the area between his balls and ass. If you give this a slight massage while sucking him, you'll drive him past the point of no return.

6.) Make some noise while he's in your mouth. The vibration not only turns him on, but will also let him know you're as into it as he is.

7.) Don't bite. Some articles say "use the teeth," but they're all written by women. The articles I've read by men all say the exact same thing, "do NOT use your teeth!" Because the purpose here is to give him pleasure, I'm going to go with what the men say. Be like an old woman with dentures and not a saber tooth tiger. Again, communication is golden so ask him, "do you like it like this?"
8.) Swallow. Imagine how you'd feel if you were in the throws of ecstasy and he suddenly turned away in revulsion? It's a turn off. Why do all of that work to get him to orgasm if you're not going to go all the way?

Now go out and have some fun! 
XXOO
Dakota Skye
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1 comment:

  1. Love your tips. (oops! Pun NOT intended.) Daddy and I are big fans of the gagging, deep-throating thing.

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